Sam's adoption took place on Monday, as you already know. While we were at the courthouse, I asked my county worker to please suspend the mandatory (court ordered) sibling visitations. That same day, I got a call from the foster mom who has Sam's older brother, but I let her go to voice mail because I didn't feel like ruining Sam's adoption day by talking with her. She basically asked me to call her because she had some questions for me.
I put off calling her back until today because quite honestly, I dreaded how the conversation might go. Since both older boys were asleep for their naps, and I had baby David sleeping peacefully on my chest while I rocked him in the rocking chair, I decided it was as good of a time as any to make the phone call. Surprisingly, the conversation went very well, and I feel like we ended the call on good terms. I do think the other mom was probably offended that we didn't tell her about the adoption ourselves, but we feel good with that decision because we cannot trust the information not to make it back to the birth parents.
The other mom did ask about continuing sibling visits, and I told her I also want to allow the boys to have contact, but for the moment, I need to settle in with our new baby and all of his visits and requirements. I told her once everything settles down, I would be willing to get together again. She told me to call when I feel ready to set up a visit. She just wanted to make sure we were still willing to get the boys together because she doesn't want them not to know each other as they grow up.
There was more to the conversation but nothing noteworthy. I am glad it went as smoothly as it did...I was a little concerned about how she might react. Apparently I didn't need to be so worried.
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