Interesting Findings

Sam had a sibling visit today.  It is the first one since February because his brother was sick both times we tried to schedule March's visit.  The visit went like usual...both boys doing their own thing and hardly interacting with one another.  There was one point in time where they followed each other on a short walk around a bookcase.  Then Sam was having fun touching his brother's pants, and his brother would get upset and say "no!" which caused Sam to laugh and then do it again.  His brother was not a fan of this game and moved away shortly afterward.

However, while we are at the visits, it gives me a chance to talk with the other foster mom, and she generally has information regarding Sam's birth parents...part of the reason my husband and I are really wary of how we will do sibling visits once adoption takes place.  Anyway...she informed me that birth dad called her the day we were supposed to have our last visit and told her he had some gifts for his son, and he knew we had visits on Tuesdays, so he was going to go to the children's receiving home to drop off the gifts.  He was asking about what time we have our visits and stuff.  Anyway...the other foster mom told him we wouldn't have having our visit that day.  She told me she has informed the front desk area that they need to contact us if birth dad were to show up during one of our visit times.

Needless to say, I am not happy about this development.  In order to protect my family, I have not met (although I do have a picture), talked with or established any contact with the birth dad.  I did send some photos when birth dad was having visits with Sam, but that has been the extent.  This is a huge safety concern...we know this because of the special treatment the county gave us even though we are an agency home, the information we have been given and the criminal records for our state.  If he shows up at a visit, I will have someone escort me to my car and I will leave as quickly as I can, and at that point in time, I won't feel comfortable continuing visits at that location.

The good news is...visits should not be court ordered much longer.  It looks like Sam's adoption will most likely take place in June if paperwork doesn't hold things up.  : )